Focus: Doing the right thing in awkward circumstances
Romans 8:31 (NKJV) What then shall we say to these things? If God is for us, who can be against us?
There will be times in your life when you will have to make decisions that other people may not agree with or fully understand—decisions based on the Word of God and the wisdom and experience you’ve gained from your past mistakes.
It’s uncomfortable to be in an awkward position. You know you’re doing the right thing, yet you can’t explain yourself. When people probe, you have to be vague and possibly appear to be the one who is in the wrong, all the while knowing what you are doing is the only thing you can do, if you want to be right with God.
People sometimes have a way of making you feel obligated to explain yourself. Most of the time, accountability is good, but when it causes you to have to provide details that would be destructive to someone, you have to remember what the Word of God teaches.
Sometimes, by trying to ‘explain yourself,’ you end up having to blame someone else or cast doubt on that person’s character. Maybe the condition of their character is doubtful in your opinion, but another person’s true character is not something any of us should judge.
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Remember how Jesus behaved when He was being taunted by His accusers. He opened not his mouth (Isaiah 53:7). He knew the exact condition of every person’s soul who came against Him. He could have said plenty, but He remained silent.
Often, it would be a lot easier to just give the facts. After all, if you have truthful information that would explain a difficult position you’ve chosen to take, wouldn’t it be alright to just say so? Not according to scripture.
When a person has caused you harm, there are various things you can choose to do and be ‘in the right’, but something you always must consider is whether some of those actions would produce positive or negative results.
Even though you could ‘legally’ say something about a person—is that what you would want done to yourself if you were in the other person’s shoes? That’s what’s tough about it.
It’s hard not to just go ahead and state your case, when you’ve been put in a position that causes you to have to suffer possible humiliation, if you don’t. Circumstances can often cause you to feel ‘obligated’ to provide more information than you should…and after you do, you feel sorry you did.
It’s complicated to write about this kind of thing—yet, this is something that will come up in every person’s life, sooner or later. A line from a Christian song by Kari Jobe says, ‘Why is life so messy?’
When you find yourself in a position where you are unable to explain yourself completely because of the complexity of the situation, you have to trust God and let people think what they will. You shouldn’t lie about the problem—you just shouldn’t get involved discussing it in the first place.
When you’ve chosen to take a position that others don’t understand, just let them know that your decision is between you and God. That’s all you should have to say. If you are scripturally right, then God will be ‘for you.’
The good news is, you have the comfort of the Holy Spirit and a friend in Jesus. God knows your heart. As you lay down your will and humble yourself, you will receive the strength you need to get through it.
This is a time when you can pour your heart out in prayer and let your situation draw you even closer to the throne of grace and mercy. The Lord is the only One who truly is able to comprehend your needs for healing and support.
As you run to your place of refuge, you will find sweet shelter and security. The Lord never tires of having you unload your burden on Him. He loves to help you and wants you to find all of your satisfaction in Him.
There is no reason to feel helpless or hopeless. There is no need for retaliation. Your problems are safe in the hands of God. He will deal justly with your case. You may never see the resolution, but that isn’t as important as you might think. Find the heart to bless every person involved in your situation, and let God be God.
Declaration: I will find new strength by trusting God to do what is right in my behalf, when life is messy.
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