Focus: Taking responsibility for our mistakes
Psalm 119:71-72 (NKJV) It is good for me that I have been afflicted, that I may learn Your statues. The law of Your mouth is better to me than thousands of coins of gold and silver.
You’ve heard it said that experience is the best teacher. Well, making mistakes can teach us a lot, too—if we’re able to see what we did wrong.
Many people have a problem when it comes to taking responsibility for their mistakes. When a failure occurs, it might be obvious that they did something the wrong way—yet they aren’t willing to admit they were responsible for the mistake they made.
Not taking responsibility for doing something the wrong way, is a lot like telling a lie. When a person is not willing to accept responsibility for doing something that turned out wrong, others may be left to assume the fault should fall on someone else, who is entirely innocent—or they may be led to believe anything but the truth—either way, the results are the same as a lie.
By not accepting responsibility for a mistake and allowing people to draw their own conclusion, the problem is now not just a mistake, but a mistake and a lie.The whole matter has become more complicated—and more difficult to resolve.
The person who made the mistake and then tried to cover it up, now has to deal with guilt and fear that they will be found out. They might become irritable and harder to get along with because of the guilt that plagues their mind about what they have done wrong. It’s also quite possible that this situation could cause the person involved to be distracted because of guilt, and end up in a position where more mistakes could easily be made.
Guilt also causes people to want to isolate. When a person has covered up a mistake they made that involves someone they normally have to come in contact with—chances are, that they will start to avoid possible confrontation—which is unhealthy and adds further complication to the situation.
Do you see how a person who is unwilling to accept responsibility for a mistake can become tangled up in a web of deception?
Life is so much easier when we are able to just find a way to admit we’re wrong and accept responsibility when we goof up. It may not seem very ‘noble’ to confess to making a blunder, but in the long run—it’s much more noble than how we might end up looking if the situation is ‘pushed under the rug’.
Why is it so hard for us to admit we’ve made a mistake? One reason, is because of the negative suggestions the enemy whispers in our ears. “People aren’t going to respect you, if they find out what really happened.” “They’ll never trust you again, if this is exposed.” “Why do you keep messing up?” “What’s wrong with you?” The Bible calls satan ‘the accuser of the brethren’, in Revelation 12:10, where his doom is also predicted.
Because you are a child of God, satan actually has no real power over you. The only way he is able to control you at all, is if you give in to negative things like worry, doubt, anger, fear, and so on. When you put yourself at a distance with God because of sin—satan quickly tries to attack you in your most vulnerable state, with relentless accusations.
Picture all of the accusations against you, as though they were written on a wall, for all to see. The moment you admit the mistake you made, the blood of Jesus is released to that wall and the words written on it miraculously begin to fade away, until there is nothing left.
God is always able and willing to rescue us, but we have to decide that being rescued is what we want. As soon as we step into a position of humility and admit the truth, the blood of Jesus goes to work in our behalf. The precious blood of Jesus is the perfect antidote for any and all of the mistakes we have made, or will ever make.
Romans 8:31 poses the question, “If God is for us, then who can stand against us?”
When we admit we are helpless and wrong—mercy and grace from the heart of God are released for us. The healing that takes place is worth so much more than living a lie.
Declaration: I will find new strength by taking responsibility for my mistakes. When I have failed, I will admit it and seek the Lord for the mercy and grace that will bring healing to my heart.
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